Rob Nelson, MS     Certified EFT Practitioner
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Couples Counseling

Do any of these issues sound familiar? 
Endless arguments, fighting and bickering.  Feeling misunderstood or unappreciated.  Blaming, attacking and defensiveness. 
Feeling lonely within the relationship. 
Feeling unsafe, insecure or hopeless. 
Sex isn’t happening, or isn’t good anymore.  One or both of you seem checked out, just going through the motions.

Given that breaking up or getting divorced can be messy, expensive and extremely painful, investing in your marriage or relationship is usually a better solution.  This is especially true when you have children together and you’ll be tied to your ex-partner for years anyway.

Traditionally couples counseling is based on learning more effective communication skills, along with airing grievances in a safe space, so that each partner feels heard and understood.  Partners can ask directly for what they want or need and compromises can be worked out.  Sometimes this is all that’s needed to get over a rough patch and restore intimacy.  Sometimes, but not always.

Couples counseling with EFT goes far beyond merely understanding each others issues.  The issues themselves are discharged through tapping.  Living together becomes much easier when emotional triggers are eliminated.  By tapping on our emotional reactions we simply take the charge from them.

This is profound because each partner may be acting out unfinished business from his or her own parents’ relationship.  This is very common!  And can be crazy making.

EFT cuts right to the heart of the problem, without the need for extensive analysis and insight. 
As emotional baggage from the past is cleared away, couples discover new space for intimacy.

Some couples are burdened with intense feelings of anger, hurt, jealousy or guilt. One or both partners may feel betrayed, as in the case of infidelity.  In these situations tapping becomes relationship CPR, as EFT offers a way to rapidly ‘take the edge off’ and move toward reconciliation.

When working with couples I usually ask for a commitment of six sessions over four weeks.  On the first day I meet with each partner separately, then all together twice the following week and once a week for the next two weeks.  I also ask partners to tap with each other at home, as new issues emerge.  These four weeks are usually enough to really turn things around.

For couples willing to commit to this program, I offer a special discount.  Please contact me for details.

Is it possible to turn around a relationship if only one partner wants to work on it?  Yes. Sometimes.  Building up your own self-acceptance and self love, and losing resistance to your partner’s issues will almost always be worthwhile.  And there are times when “surrogate tapping” for your partner seems to be surprisingly effective as well.

Call today for a free 20 minute phone consultation.

707-280-8134